Originally written by Julia Wise based on material from local group organisers (April 2019). Last updated: 4th October, 2023
Alcohol is a common part of meetups. It can be an enjoyable part of socializing, but can also cause problems. Here are some ideas from other organizers about reducing problems.
1. Proactive steps
- Have some meetups where alcohol is not present. For people who are avoiding alcohol for any reason, a pub meetup may not be one they want to attend. Some organizers also guess that meetups in pubs or bars may lead to higher rates of inappropriate behaviour. This doesn’t mean you can’t have some meetups in pubs or bars, but be sure to provide other types of events too.
- When serving alcohol, also provide good non-alcoholic options (water, flavoured seltzer, juice drinks, etc.). Also, provide food so people aren’t drinking on an empty stomach.
- Don’t list an event as including drinks.
- There’s debate about this one - some people might like to be informed if they’d like to avoid events with drinking.
- However, not listing drinks may avoid attracting people who come primarily for free drinks.
2. If you notice a problem
- One organiser with experience in handling attendee problems in a different setting writes, “To me, the #1 takeaway is any time you even suspect anything like this may be getting out of control — e.g., an attendee behaving erratically — notify other organizers, or just other helpful people present. (False alarms are fine!) These things are easier with help, and if people are aware early."
- Consider removing all alcohol if necessary to prevent an intoxicated person from drinking more.
- Consider talking to the person to inform them that their level of intoxication is a problem.
- Consider telling the person that they need to leave.
- If you think it’s safe, escort the person to transportation. Ask other organizers for help.
- If you believe anyone’s safety is in danger, consider calling 911 or your local emergency phone number.
3. After a problem
Another community’s meetup guide writes, “In the NYC meetup group, there was a person who had been drinking too much and been disruptive over a period of several weeks. After several hours of discussion, the person was asked to continue attending on the condition that they stay sober during the meetups. The person decided not to come back.”